How to Be More Gracious

The word “Gracious” is not one we hear too often anymore. Yet today this word still conjures images of a person we'd like to have in our lives. Adding a touch of graciousness to ourselves is a great way to benefit both yourself and the community, and it is something that you can do without any special training or skill. Here are three amazing ways you can show graciousness in your day to day life.


Show forgiveness to others

In today's world, forgiving others almost feels like a taboo. We live in an elitist culture, and social media as well as our work culture has driven us to feel the need to strive for perfection. This has touched every aspect of our lives, from parenting to pets. 

Our friends, family and co-workers make mistakes from time to time, just as we do. Chiding your coworker for being late (especially without hearing the circumstances as to why they were late), correcting their parenting style on a Facebook photo, or making someone feel like a bad dog owner for feeding the wrong foods are all things we do without thinking of it.

Instead, consider a more forgiving attitude. Understanding that people make mistakes and not embarrassing them over it is a salve on the spirit that they will remember long after the moment has passed.


Be a little more thoughtful

Maya Angelou once said, “They may forget what you said, but they'll never forget how you made them feel.” When ever you interact with someone, you are leaving behind a memory of how you made another person feel.

Fortunately, you don't need to be over the top to show thoughtfulness in your day to day life. It can be as simple as smiling at the doorman, and saying hello. It can be sending flowers or a hot meal to someone who has lost a loved one. It can be making sure your co-worker gets off 15 minutes early so he can go pick up his kid, or washing your kids favorite Minecraft shirt so he can wear it again.

Thoughtfulness is a wonderful way to help develop graciousness in your life.


Show gratitude for what others do for you

While we aren't supposed to expect a spotlight on the kind things we do in life, it can feel like we are invisible when no one ever thanks you for a task done well. Remembering to thank the store clerk for helping you find whole wheat pasta, or a co-worker who saved you from having to speak to a chatty client for an extra 30 minutes, remembering to thank a person for what they've done can be the highlight of their day. Being thankful also helps others to know that you notice their actions, and appreciate them.

There are dozens of other ways to show graciousness, but these three skills are foundation skills in graciousness. Through adding these skills into your day to day life, you can help the world to become a better place, and make more people smile when they see your face.